May 5, 2013 by theislampost
Ramla Bint Abu Sufayn
She was Ramla bint Abu Sufyan, the leader of Quraish and the unbeliever’s until the great victory. But, she embraced Islam though her father was an atheist by then. He could not convince her to stay an atheist. Furthermore, she endured all kinds of hardships and sufferings in the cause of Allah and her belief.
She got married to ‘Ubaidellah Ibn Jahsh who embraced Islam as well. When Muslims were put into affliction and persecution she emigrated to Abysinniya with her husband where she gave birth to Rabeeba, a girl.
She kept patient and endured the sufferings of alienation and estrangement until she was taken by something she did not expect. Let us lend our ears to her to know what happened.
She said, “I saw in a dream my husband, Ubaidellah Ibn Jahsh in bad and disfigured appearance. It was a horrible dream. In the morning I found that he converted to Christianity. I told him what I had seen in my dream. But he did not care about that.”
This wretched abostate did his best to convert his wife. But she refused and resorted to her belief. She begged him to stay a Muslim but he refused. Then he started to drink wine so excessively that he died after few days.
Afterwards Ramla not only suffered alienation in the land to which she emigrated but also she became a widow. Yet she kept patient and endured such severe afflictions. She put before her eyes Allah’s saying:
[And for those who fear Allah, He (ever) prepares a way out, and He provides for him from (sources) he never could expect. And if any one puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is His purpose: verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion.]
One day she saw in a dream that someone called her by saying, “O mother of the faithful” She interpreted her dream to mean that the Prophet (pbuh) would marry her. Such a dream strengthened her fortitude as Allah willed.
No sooner did her waiting period end than an abyssinian slave girl visited her to offer her the Prophet’s proposal to marry her. She, out of joy, said to the maid aloud, “may Allah bless you” She also gave her what she wear of jewelry. Then she sent to Sa’id Ibn al-‘As to commission him to conduct the marriage upon the request of Nagus who was commissioned by the Prophet (pbuh).
In the evening, Nagus gathered all Muslims in Abyssinia., Muslims, gathered together headed by Ja’far Ibn Abu Talib, the Prophet’s cousin.
Thereupon, Nagus delivered a speech. He said,
“Praise be to Allah, the Sovereign, the Holy one, the Source of Peace (and perfection), the Guardian of Faith, the Preserver of Safety, the Exalted in Might, the Irresistible, the Justly Proud. I testify that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah about whom ‘Issa Ibn Maryam (pbuh) told. To proceed: The Messenger of Allah sent me a message and asked me to give him Umm Habbeebah bint Abu Sufyan in marriage.Therefore, I responded to what the Messenger of Allah asked. Thereby, I’ll give her four hundred dinars as a dowry. He, then, poured the dinars before the people.
Afterwards, Khalid Ibn Sa’ id had the turn to speak. He said,
“Praise be to Allah. I praise Him and seek His help. I testify that there is no God but Allah and Muhammad is His servant and His Messenger, whom He sent with the guidance and the Religion of Truth and that He will make it prevail over all religions, even though the pagans may detest it.
To proceed: I responded to what the Messenger of Allah asked. Thereby, I’ll give him Umm Habbeebah bint Abu Sufyan in marriage. May Allah bless the marriage to the Prophet (pbuh).
Then, Nagus paid the dowry to Khalid Ibn Sa’id and held the wedding feast and said, “Have a seat; it is the Prophets sunna when marrying to offer food.”
When the Muslims came out victorious in Khaybar and the emigrants of Abyssinia returned at the same time, the Prophet said, “I do not know with what occasion I should be happy!” The victory in Khaybar or the advent of Ja’far?
Umm Habeebah was among the emigrants. There, he consummated his marriage with her in the sixth or seventh year of the Hijrah calendar.
Umm Habeebah kept on preferring her belief to all ties of kinship. She declared that all what she was concerned about was Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). This was illustrated in her attitude to her father Abu Sufyan when he visited her in Madina. His visit was to try convincing her husband, the Prophet (pbuh) to renew the period of Hudaibyah covenant after the disbelevers had breached their covenant. Abu Sufyan wanted to sit down upon the Prophet’s mat, but she folded it and put it away. He wondered, “O daughter, I do not know whether it is better for me to sit upon this mat or not.” She quietly answered, “It is the Prophet’s mat and you are a disbeliever and impure. Thereby I did not like you to sit upon the Prophet’s mat. He said, “O daughter, “you are surely seized by something evil after you left me.” She firmly answered, “It is better to say, “Allah had guided me to Islam. O father, you are the leader of Quraish. I wonder how you could miss entering Islam. You only worship a deaf and blind stone. Then, he went back angry. What a great attitude that deserve all kind of reverence and respect.
After the Prophet’s death (pbuh), Umm Habeebah stayed in her home. She would only leave for prayer. She did not leave Madina but for performing pilgrimage until she died. She was seventy years by then. She set a great example in adhering to belief and desisting the pre-lslamic values. She disregarded the ties of kinship when it contradicted her belief. May Allah be pleased with her.
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