January 20, 2013 by theislampost
She was the best of womankind in her lifetime. She was the daughter of Khuwailid Ibn Asad Ibn Abdu-I-Uzza Ibn Qusayy Ibn Kilab. She was from the tribe of Quraish and of Bani Asad and was called the chaste woman. She was born in a house of glory and leadership fifteen years before the Year of the Elephant and brought up in an honorable house. She was a rational and venerable woman. She was famous for her strictness, reason and decency. Because of this, she was respected and desired by the elite of her tribe.
She got married to Abu Halah Ibn Zararah of Tamimi-tribe and gave birth to Halah and Hind. After
the death of Abu Halah, she married ‘Ateeq Ibn ‘A’iz Ibn ‘Abdullah who was from the tribe of Bani Makhzum. They stayed together for a period of time before separation.
Then, she refused. many proposals of marriage made by venerable men. She devoted her life for her children and towards managing her trade. She was wealthy and used to hire men to manage her trade as partners.
Being informed of the Prophet Muhammad’s truthfulness, integrity and good manners before his
Messengership, she entrusted him to run her trade accompanied by her slave Maysarah in ash-Sham (Syria) and promised to pay to him more than to others. The Prophet agreed and travelled with
Khadija’s slave. He achieved great gains by Allah‘s willing. Khadija was quite pleased with his achievements. But what pleased and gained her admiration even more was Muhammad himself.
She started to think of him and found herself attracted to Muhammad emotionally. She had never felt such emotion before. But she started to wonder: Would he accept her proposal since she was
forty years and he was only twenty-five? How could she face those whom she refused of the masters of Quraish before?
Meanwhile, her friend, Nafisa Bint Munabbih, entered and started to talk with her until she made her disclose what perplexed her. Then she comforted her and reminded her of his good character,
lineage, wealth and grace over all those venerable men who sought to marry her.
No sooner did Nafisa leave Khadija than she (Nafisa) went to Muhammad. She intuitively asked him, “Why did you not marry, Muhammad?” He answered, “I cannot afford marriage. “She smiled
and said, “If there is anyone who could be elligible would you agree?” He asked, “Who is she?” She said instantly, “Khadija Bint Khuwailid.” He said, “I would agree if she did.”
Nafisa instantly went to Khadija to tell her the good news. On the other hand, Muhammad told his uncles about his wish to marry Khadija. Then, Abu Talib, Hamza and others went to Khadija’s
uncle, Amr Ibn Asad and betrothed his niece and offered him the dowry.
When marriage was concluded, many animals were slaughtered and distributed among the poor. They held the wedding party in Khadija’s house. Halima as-Sa’diyyah who suckled Muhammad was
among the audience. Khadija offered her forty sheep as a gift to the one who suckled her beloved husband, Muhammad.
When Khadija became Muhammad’s wife, she set greatest examples in loving her husband. and all what he desired. For example, she granted Zayd Ibn Haritha to Muhammad, when she felt that he
Likewise, she pleasantly accepted Ali Ibn Abu Talib as a member of her house due to Muhammad’ s wish. Allah showered incessant favors upon such happy union. He blessed them with boys and
girls: al-Qasim, Abdullha, Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kulthum and Fatima.
Muhammed was inclined, as Allah willed, to worship in solitude. He kept on worshipping Allah in this manner in a cave on Mount Hira‘ for a month every year. He used to stay there for some days living on little provision away from the vain talk and the amusement of the people of Makka who worshipped idols.
Although Khadija could not endure to be away from Muhammad, she prefered to keep silent and not to ask him what he was doing there so as not to disturb him. She did her best in order to look
after him and to let him live peacefully at home. When going to the cave, she kept watching him and then sent whosoever could guard him without disturbing him.
The Messenger of Allah kept doing that tor a period of time. Then came Jibreel (peace be upon him) with Allah’s bless while Muhammad was in Hira’ in Ramadan. Having received Allah’s revelation, he went home scared, pale and trembling. He said, “cover me, cover me.” After she knew what had happened, he said to her, “I am scared, Khadija” This rational wife replied, “May Allah look after us, Abul-Qasim, what good news, my cousin. So be steadfast. By Whom in Whose hand is Khadija’s soul I think that you are the Prophet of this nation. By Allah, Allah will never make you lose. You keep good terms with your relatives, are truthful, help the weak, are a good
host to your guests and help the afflicted.“
Such encouragement comforted the Prophet’s heart. She then went to her cousin Warqa Ibn Nawfal to tell him what had happened to Muhammad (pbuh). Accordingly, Waraqa proclaimed,
“Holy is He, Holy is He, by whom in whose hand is Waraqa’s soul if you are truthful, Khadija, it is the great angel who came to Musa and ‘Isa. Surely, he is the Prophet of this nation. Would you tell him to be steadfast.”
Afterwards, the wife went aforetime to please her husband with the good tiding. Then, she brought him to her cousin, Waraqa to listen. to him together. When Waraqa watched the Prophet approaching, he shouted, “By whom in whose hand is my soul, you are, the Prophet of this nation. You will be rejected, hurt, expelled, fought. Had I lived until such day, I would have supported you. Then he kissed his head.”
Muhammad asked, “Would they expel me?” Waraqa replied, “Yes, None has claimed what you claim without being fought. I would like to live until such day.” Then Waraq died soon after.
The Prophet was pleased upon hearing Waraqa’s prophecy. He realised what his mission to his people was to be and this was Allah’s law concerning His Prophets and all callers to Him. Therefore, no matter how severe sufferings or persecution were he was ready to meet.
Khadija was the first to believe in Allah and His Messenger and to embrace Islam. This faithful and loving wife supported her husband, the Prophet (pbuh), and helped him endure the most severe kinds of torture and persecution. Then, she relieved him when he was hurt or rejected. When they called him a liar, she alone remained true. Then the Qur’ anic verses were revealed:
(O thou wrapped up (in a mantle)! Arise and deliver thy warning! And thy Lord do thou magnify! And the garments keep free from stain! And all abomination shun! Nor expect, in giving, any increase (for thyself)! But, for thy Lord’s (cause) be patient and constant!}
Henceforth, the noble, Prophet started a new life, full of blessings and hardships. He told his wife that the time of sleep and comfort was over. Khadija, then, began to summon people to Islam beside
her husband. The first fruits of their work were her slave Zayd and her four daughters (may Allah be pleased with them all).
Afterwards, the Muslims suffered many different kinds of chastisement. But khadija was as steadfast as a mountain. She put before her eyes Allah’ s statement:
(Alif. Lam. Meem. Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, ‘we believe’, and that they will not be tested?)
When Allah took the soul of her two young sons: al-Qasim and ‘Abdullah she kept patient. She also saw the first martyered woman in Islam (Sumayyah) when she suffered the deathly trials at the
hands of the tyrants.
She bid farewell to her daughter, Ruqayyah when migrating to Abyssinia with her husband, Uthman ibn ‘Affan, to escape the torture of Quraish and to preserve her belief.
She witnessed and lived in all hard times, full of hardships and struggle without being desperate. She, all the time, kept before her eyes Allah’s saying:
(Ye shall certainly be tried and tested in your possessions and in yourselves; and ye shall certainly hear much that will grieve you, from those who received the Book before you and from those who worship partners partiently, and guard against evil, then that indeed is a matter of great resolution.)
Before all of this, she witnessed her truthful and kind husband suffering several types of trials while summoning to Allah: However, he kept patient seeking Allah’s reward. The more trials, the more
patience and steadfastness. He refused all luring offers when the bidders tried to entice him from the belief. Furthermore, he swore an oath in one such situation by saying:
“By Allah, my uncle, had they put the sun on my right hand and the moon on left to leave this matter, I would not have left it until Allah disclosed His will or I die.”
Thus, this striving mistress, Khadija followed her husband, Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) in belief and perseverance. When the people of Quraish boycotted Muslims to besiege them politically, economically and socially, she stood by Muslims in Abu Talib’s valley leaving her house to stay there for three years. The items of this boycott was written in a scripture and was hanged in Ka’ba. She patiently endured the sufferings of such siege with the Messenger and his followers. She gave all what she had in this trial though she was sixty-five.
Three years after the siege. Abu Talib died followed by Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), three years before Hijra (immigration to Madina). The Prophet suffered many afflictions after the death of Khadija who was his truthful minister.
The righteous soul went to her Lord after the end of her lifespan. She was really an excellent example in the field of the call to Allah and striving for His cause. She was a wise wife who gave
all what she had to please Allah and His Messenger. Therefore, she deserved to be greeted by Allah and be informed that she would have a house in paradise. The Prophet (pbuh) said,
“The hest of women in it (Paradise) is Mariyam bint ’Imaran. The hest of women in it is Khadija bint Khuwailid”.
May Allah be pleased with Khadija bint Khuwailid, a chaste mistress, loyal wife, truthful and the striving believer in the cause of belief with all what she had of worldly benefits. May Allah give the hest reward.
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